online dating

I seem to have lost a blog entry but it was nothing important so let me fill you guys in on what has been happening. I have joined a gym and I have been working out 4 days a week now for almost a month. I certainly feel better but I can't say that I look that much better yet. I guess it takes time for this stuff to start to show on your body, I guess I won't see much until the fat is all gone. So what else, I stubbed my toe really hard the other day at the gym and it turned black and I had to get it removed that was fun... the toenail had to be removed btw not my toe duh. I did take some new pics a few weeks ago and I have been spending a decent amount of time on the internet dating site that I am a member of but not as much time as I would like. I kind of wanted to keep working out a bit more and then take some fresh pics before I really started to go nuts on the site and send out tons of messages. That isn't to say that I haven't been sending out messages to girls and having some success because I have. The thing is though that so far I am only hearing from older women. I am talking about women that are 37-45 which is fine by me because I think I would be more comfortable with an older woman who's expectations may not be that high.

Young women probably have big expectations when it comes to sexual performance. Hell I am still a shitty kisser let a lone a good lay. I need to get better at kissing otherwise I won't make it passed first base with anyone. Anyways, I did manage to go out on one date with this woman who was quite attractive. I am pretty sure I made some classic newbie mistakes because I didn't hear from her again but at least I spent some time with her and well let's face it, it was a learning experience. Her name was Gretchen and she was an assistant branch manager for a bank here in San Fransisco. We exchanged a few messages through the online dating site messaging system and then I asked her if she used MSN. She said no and just gave me her phone number instead. So I called her and we had a nice chat that lasted about 90 minutes. I then chatted with her a few more conversations on the phone and then finally asked her if she would like to grab a coffee sometime. She said sure and we met last saturday. We met at this cool place here in town called Four Barrel Coffee. The place was very cool and I was really nervous to meet her even though it was just coffee.

I arrived 15 minutes early for some stupid reason so I could sit there with my coffee and just feel all apprehensive and like I was going to throw up. I swear to God, I saw at least 5 women that I thought was her before she finally came in. She was VERY attractive, at least I thought she was. I was kind of overwhelmed by her presence and I can barely remember what I said to her during the first 20 minutes. She seemed like she was having a semi-reasonable time with me but she was asking me a lot of questions and I was starting to feel like she was weeding me out So I tried to counter this by asking her a bunch of questions. I was really attracted to her but I couldn't tell if she was attracted to me. I think I must have drank about 4 coffees while we sat there for two hours shooting the shit. Eventually she was like ok I have to get going but it was nice meeting you and I was like yeah sure totally then we shook hands and parted company at the coffee shop. I thought that maybe it had gone decent but I kinda new in the back of my mind it had gone bad... or mainly I had not won her over with my personality. I talked to her on MSN the next day and she told me I was a "nice guy" but not really her type

Hi sorry everyone I have been neglecting posting here on this blog. Once I came back from Costa Rica I got the flu and I was down and out for like 2 weeks and I didn't feel much like typing anything to anyone. The flu really kicked my ass and I haven't really thought about pursuing women until the other night when a friend of mine gave me the kick in the ass I needed to get back on the horse. Now that I am no longer a virgin, I feel like a new man. I have decided to remove my profile from the online dating site and then I am going to rejoin again tomorrow under a new nickname and make a completely different profile that better reflects the new me. I am just going to ignore those women I was talking to because I was really acting like a bitch when I was talking to them so I know I have already set the wrong precedent with them and I probably am not going to score with them. They won't be attracted to me cuz of that old weakness.

I am going to start of fresh again and very strong this time. I am going to take some kickass new pictures of myself doing cool shit and then post them on my profile. I am going to act like I am very self confident and then I can attract the kind of girl I really want to be with and I can embrace the new me who understands women and how to please them now. I am kind of getting excited now about the thought of being with a woman since I know what I am doing. I want to try out my newly acquired skills if you know what I mean but one step at a time. First the new pics, then the new profile, then I send out messages to all the girls I like.

I know that a lot of new people have joined the online dating site since I was last on it and that is a good thing because I want to engage new women that don't know the old me. I want them to only be exposed to the new me because perception is everything and Shakespeare said it best when he said all the world is a stage. I think I am going to pick out a few foreign girls because I really like talking to girls who don't have English as their first language. I feel like I have a bit of an advantage in this matter. I just mean that it seems like the relationship moves slowly when both people don't speak english. I will report more back here very soon once there is more to tell you about.

I managed to convince Carol that I had to go to Costa Rica for a business convention. She bought it hook, line, and sinker. So I am leaving tomorrow afternoon for Costa Rica so I can go and visit the famous Del Ray and get it on with some hookers. I am very nervous because I heard that many of the girls don't speak English there so I need to find a girl that does speak English and will be gentle with me. I wonder how they are going to react when I tell them that I am still a virgin? In the movies, they are always sympathetic and think it's cute but somehow I doubt that that is how it is in the real world. They will probably be thinking "great, now I have to show this noob what to do". Either way I am determined to lose my virginity there and also soak up some sun and take a long needed vacation while I am at it.

I am going alone, and I have traveled many times to foreign countries without issue. I am trying to learn a bit of Spanish before I go so I am not totally lost once I get there but I am not sure how much I can pick up in just 2 days. I have a book that I am going to read on the flight there etc. I have already spent many hours doing research online etc about Costa Rica so I know exactly what I am getting into once I get there. Will report more from there via my laptop so I guess it is goodbye for now

Let me tell you about the date I went on with Carol on Friday. I met her at the restaurant we agreed to meet at. She was already inside sitting at a table which was kind of awkward but I rolled with it the best I could. She stood up and we shook hands like some formal business meeting which I thought was kind of funny and cute at the same time. She is 30 years old and she has medium length brown hair. She looks older than she says she is in a mature way. It's not like oh you look old and nasty, she just looked mature for her age but she looks good.

She told me that her last relationship had lasted 7 years and I was like damn I haven't even been in a single relationship myself ever. I didn't tell her that though, instead I lied and told her my last relationship lasted 4 years but I have been single for 3 years now. So much for her being a virgin. There is no way she is a virgin too unless she is lying about being in that relationship, kind of like the same way I lied about being in a relationship.

We ate dinner which was very good and we continued to get to know one another through useless small talk. Half of the shit I was saying I was just making up on the fly. I'm not sure why I was making so much shit up I guess it was because the whole conversation felt like a competition. Maybe she is just a really competitive girl, the kind of girl you can play racquetball with and still fell challenged. I know I am really inexperienced when it comes to women but I have enough friends to observe to know a thing or two about the situation. I also watch a lot of tv and lot of movies so I think that helps me a lot.

After dinner I asked her what she wanted to do next and she replied "surprise me" and I was like um ok here we go with another test, here we go with more competition. So I said fine let's go to this dance club I know. Of course I don't really know it and I have never been there but I had Googled it and knew where it was. So we arrive at the club around 10:30pm and there is a massive lineup and I am like shit there is no way we are going in. I tell her I don't feel like waiting in line and she is like we don't have to wait in line and she walks up to the bouncer and slips him a 20 dollar bill and he lets us in and I was like wow you win the prize girl. She was all excited once we got into the club and I asked her if she does that often and she said no that was the first time she has ever bribed anyone for anything. She said she was watching a tv show the other day and the guy was talking about how easy and polite it is to bribe people.

We danced a lot of the night away until about 2am. I am not big on dancing but after a few shooters I just didn't give a hoot anymore. I was kind of worried she would want me to go back to her place and have sex. I was worried because I haven't had sex before and I don't really know what I am doing. This night made me realize that I need to go to a prostitute or something so I can get a few under my belt. So I went to the bathroom and when I came back I told her I had just puked a lot and I wanted to go. She was sympathetic and we left. The taxi dropped her at home and she gave me a kiss on the cheek and got out and said I hope you feel better.

I now am planning a trip to Costa Rica where prostitution is still legal. I need to get away anyways to some place hot and sunny so I can kill two birds with one stone. I am going to go at the end of this month. I will let you all know more once I book it.

Hello everyone, I am back and sorry it has been so long since my last post. Let me fill you in on what has been happening and on what hasn't been happening. First of all, I never heard back from that girl Kirsten. I can only assume that I wasn't aggressive enough and that somehow turned her off. I was worried about coming on too strong and ruining things but now I see that I was too passive. So next girl I hook up with, I am going to be more aggressive with because clearly that is what girls err women want. I have to get over my insecurities and let the real me out. The me that should have come out years ago and no I don't mean come out like I am gay or something.

Christmas holidays were a busy time of the year for me for my job. Lots of people had insects and rodents that they needed to get rid of and my job doesn't stop just for some stupid holidays. Yes I am calling xmas stupid because I pretty much spent it alone and it was pretty uneventful. I am however determined to meet more girls this year. Speaking of this year, my near years eve was pretty lame as well. I just rented a few movies and stayed home and watched them.

So here we are in 2010 and luckily I still have a few women that I am talking to that I haven't met yet. One girl is named Carol and she works for a medical lab. I am not exactly sure what that means but I think she makes retty decent money which is good because I don't want to hook up with a girl who can't pay her own way. Wow I sound really bitter right now.

I have been speaking with her for a about 10 days now and she seems to be very shy as well. I wouldn't be surprised if she is a virgin too ro maybe has only slept with a few different guys. I asked her what her idea of a great date would be and she said she had no idea. I was like well this is great, we are both a couple of noobs when it comes to dating. I asked her if she would like to go out for dinner because that is the extent of my creativity and she said she would be into doing that. We have a date planned for Friday night. I am going to take her to this place called Gary Danko Restaurant which is supposed to be pretty good. I will let you know how that goes.

I have been thinking about getting a dog. I am not sure why but yesterday I had a dream about having a dog and I was very happy. I was also thinking that maybe having a dog would make it easier for me to meet women. I still haven't decided yet if I am actually going to follow through on it. A dog is a big responsibility and I am not sure if I want that in my life right now. I definitely want a woman though

Hi all. Sorry I know I promised to write again the day after but I was busy. Bottom line is that progress is being made, but slowly. I created my online profile by taking some fresh pictures of myself with my camera using the mirror and using a tripod with the camera timer. I uploaded the pictures (i got 4 good pics from 200 shots) and I wrote up some nice descriptions of myself and what I am looking for. I tried to be as honest as possible. The site was very helpful in guiding me through the process. I also filled out this personality profile questionnaire that other people can view and see your score from. In my profile I was 100% honest and told people about my lack of experience and also the fact that I am a virgin.

So far I have received messages from 7 different girls. Things are going slow as a I mentioned and with each of these girls (who range in age and background) and we are right now in the fact finding stage with each one. It seems like pretty dry and boring stuff but I guess this is how people feel each other out and see if there may be a fit or at least some interest in pursuing things further. I will tell you about each girl.

Kirsten: She is 31 and she works as a Karate instructor. I was like wow a girl who could kick my butt - I like that - I think. She said she is very shy even though she can kick arse and she said she just got out of a long relationship of 8 or 9 years I think. She seems very reserved but very humble and nice. Karate girl would be cool to meet. So far we are just asking questions back and forth and I have not pushed the situation.

Melinda: She is 27 and works in pharmaceutical sales whatever that means. She looks kind of gothic and she has some piercings and some tattoos. I am very curious about this girl but I don't think she would make a good long term partner. However I learned long ago not to judge a book by its cover so I am still exploring options with this girl. At minimum maybe I can learn something from her. Learning stuff is good.

Wendy: This girl is 37 and is a massage therapist. She said she has been doing massage sine she was 23 and of course I am already thinking about all the potential free massages I could get if I hooked up with her but I am also reminded of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry dated a massage girl and it didn't work out. Either way I bet she has some talented hands. She seems like a happy go lucky type of girl who takes things in stride and lets the stuff roll off her back like a wet duck.

Tabitha: She is 24 and she is a bookkeeper for a large chemical company. It doesn't sound like a very flattering job but she is only 24 so I guess that says something. Again I know she is young but whatever.

Daphne: She manages a burger joint and she is 31. She seems like a type A personality and very aggressive. Not sure if I could handle a girl like this.

Tiffany: She is an aspiring model and she is 26. She is definitely the best looking of the group. I don't know if I have any shot with her but it is interesting that she has responded to me. I didn't think I would be getting any attention from a girl like this. Perhaps she is attracted to my intelligence.

Candice: She is 33 and she is an esthetician. I have never been to a spa before but she works at one of the big spas here in Milwaukee. She used to be married and is now divorced. She seems very guarded and cautious. I am not sure if I want to date a girl who is divorced or not.

Well that is it for now. I am working slowly but surely on all 7 of them and also looking for more women I can initiate contact with. I wasn't expecting to have so many girls message me, I thought I would have to be the one pursuing them. I am having fun so far and my ego is feeling better. I am however very worried about sex and when it comes to that because I have no experience. My friends keep suggesting I hire a hooker etc so I can get some experience and not be a total noob once I am actually with a girl.