Single In San Francisco

What a week it has been! I actually went out on a real date. Let me tell you all about it.

I was able to get a date with Kirsten who is the 31 year old Karate instructor. She agreed to go and play mini putt with me at this place called McInnis Park Golf Center. Some people might read this and be like you suck buddy is a mini golf date all you could get? What? She won't go out with you during the night or to some place more intimate? Say what you want but I think it was a good first step. I think that women like Kirsten are looking for someone nonthreatening and doing stuff like this demonstrates that I am not like every other horny toad dude out there who just wants to get into her pants and has no depth of character. I picked her up at her place around 3pm on Saturday and we drove to the place. She asked me quite a few questions in the car in the ride over almost as if she was grilling me or interrogating me. I think I did a pretty good job answering the questions and making her feel comfortable that I was not like every other guy out there and that my intentions were sincere. We had a fun time playing minigolf and it turns out she was pretty good and had clearly been to play a few times although she claimed she had never played it before. I let her beat me by two strokes, I mean I think that is what you are supposed to do in a case like this... or maybe I made a mistake and should have beaten her to prove my manliness to her. These types of things confuse me. Usually in life I am able see things in black and white but when it comes to emotions, and women etc I really feel like I can not find the answer and that which seems most logical to ME is often wrong.

We didn't really make any concrete plans as to what we were going to do other than the mini golf. I think she wanted to play it by ear and see how much of a dufus I was before she committed to anything else. We finished minigolf and then went across the street to this Irish pub for a beer. I decided to get a Guinness since we were in a real authentic Irish bar. She had a glass of red wine... I think it was a Pinot Noir but I am not sure because I am not a big wine drinker. I was like ok... I guess we are gonna sit here and chat for a bit and have a few drinks. So that is what we did. Around 6:30 and a couple of beers later I asked her if she was hungry and if she wanted to grab some dinner. She hesitated for a second and then said sure why not. Why not? sigh... not exactly the enthusiastic response I was hoping for.

I told her I was taking her to The Cliff House at Ocean's Beach and I called and was lucky enough to be able to get a reservation. The place is awesome and it has great seafood. I have been there many times but usually with a guy friend or sadly enough by myself. We had a nice dinner and we talked about a lot of different things like her family and stuff. She said she hasn't had a lot of boyfriends and that because she is in Karate and also mixed martial arts she is always around sweated buffed egocentric men and as a result of that is she more attracted now to more mild mannered regular guys. Guys like me I hope. She said she thought it was cute at how shy and polite I was and how I hadn't said anything crass in the entire time we had spent together and how I don't curse. I guys sometimes nice guys don't finish last. Problem is that all of my friends and also all of the books I am reading are telling me the opposite. They are telling me to be more aggressive and mean. I don't really want to try this stuff but these guys are experts.

We left the restaurant and I drove her home wondering about what was going to happen when we arrived at her door. I walked her to her door and then just kinda stood there. She said thanks for dinner and for the great time minigolfing and I said something dumb like yeah it was fun. I had no intention of making any moves on her to kiss her etc and I she could totally tell this, so she leaned over and gave me one gentle peck on the lips then said goodnight and turned and walked inside. W00t. I left so giddy that I almost got into a car crash cuz I was slamming my fist on the steering wheel in victory. I know most guys could have followed up on that and got farther etc but I was scared. I will take this small victory and use it to make myself stronger. I have to go out to a job site now to deal with a massive roach infestation. Good times.

Hi all. Sorry I know I promised to write again the day after but I was busy. Bottom line is that progress is being made, but slowly. I created my online profile by taking some fresh pictures of myself with my camera using the mirror and using a tripod with the camera timer. I uploaded the pictures (i got 4 good pics from 200 shots) and I wrote up some nice descriptions of myself and what I am looking for. I tried to be as honest as possible. The site was very helpful in guiding me through the process. I also filled out this personality profile questionnaire that other people can view and see your score from. In my profile I was 100% honest and told people about my lack of experience and also the fact that I am a virgin.

So far I have received messages from 7 different girls. Things are going slow as a I mentioned and with each of these girls (who range in age and background) and we are right now in the fact finding stage with each one. It seems like pretty dry and boring stuff but I guess this is how people feel each other out and see if there may be a fit or at least some interest in pursuing things further. I will tell you about each girl.

Kirsten: She is 31 and she works as a Karate instructor. I was like wow a girl who could kick my butt - I like that - I think. She said she is very shy even though she can kick arse and she said she just got out of a long relationship of 8 or 9 years I think. She seems very reserved but very humble and nice. Karate girl would be cool to meet. So far we are just asking questions back and forth and I have not pushed the situation.

Melinda: She is 27 and works in pharmaceutical sales whatever that means. She looks kind of gothic and she has some piercings and some tattoos. I am very curious about this girl but I don't think she would make a good long term partner. However I learned long ago not to judge a book by its cover so I am still exploring options with this girl. At minimum maybe I can learn something from her. Learning stuff is good.

Wendy: This girl is 37 and is a massage therapist. She said she has been doing massage sine she was 23 and of course I am already thinking about all the potential free massages I could get if I hooked up with her but I am also reminded of the Seinfeld episode where Jerry dated a massage girl and it didn't work out. Either way I bet she has some talented hands. She seems like a happy go lucky type of girl who takes things in stride and lets the stuff roll off her back like a wet duck.

Tabitha: She is 24 and she is a bookkeeper for a large chemical company. It doesn't sound like a very flattering job but she is only 24 so I guess that says something. Again I know she is young but whatever.

Daphne: She manages a burger joint and she is 31. She seems like a type A personality and very aggressive. Not sure if I could handle a girl like this.

Tiffany: She is an aspiring model and she is 26. She is definitely the best looking of the group. I don't know if I have any shot with her but it is interesting that she has responded to me. I didn't think I would be getting any attention from a girl like this. Perhaps she is attracted to my intelligence.

Candice: She is 33 and she is an esthetician. I have never been to a spa before but she works at one of the big spas here in Milwaukee. She used to be married and is now divorced. She seems very guarded and cautious. I am not sure if I want to date a girl who is divorced or not.

Well that is it for now. I am working slowly but surely on all 7 of them and also looking for more women I can initiate contact with. I wasn't expecting to have so many girls message me, I thought I would have to be the one pursuing them. I am having fun so far and my ego is feeling better. I am however very worried about sex and when it comes to that because I have no experience. My friends keep suggesting I hire a hooker etc so I can get some experience and not be a total noob once I am actually with a girl.